Monday, 10 October 2016

In a world where you can be anything... be kind

Oh look Maddie hasn’t blogged for a while…yet again! So here it is a big apology for being such a slack blogger.

As always, I find myself consumed with the thoughts of blogging again, and today even more so. Today is National Mental Health Day and it hits me pretty close to home. It is time for us to end the illogical and outdated stigma that is attached to feeling depressed or anxious, it’s time that we understand that mental health is equally as important as our physical health.

I wanted to share my story with you to show that mental health is nothing to be embarrassed about, so if you are suffering don’t be ashamed. Or, if you know someone going through a tough time maybe this will help you understand.

So, you know the feeling… increased heart rate, feeling overwhelmed, can’t think clearly, palms sweaty, knees weak, mums spaghetti… sorry, I lost my train of thought there.

Anyway, that awful feeling is anxiety, and we can all feel it sometimes. It could be a simple dread of work the next day, that nerve wracking feeling for a job interview or the fear of medical tests. Whatever it may be we’ve all experienced it at some point. Well here is the sh*t part, it can affect some of us worse than others. And unluckily for me I am in the bracket of anxious wreck! I went from being the life and sole of the party, the crazy and confident one to quite frankly the complete opposite, what felt like overnight. 

At random moments, I will get this building fear that something isn’t right. Nine times out of ten everything is perfectly fine, but once that anxious thought pops in to my head, my mind can’t seem to comprehend that everything will be ok. The anxiety can get so bad that at my worst getting myself out of bed and to the shop became a challenge. My mind constantly switches back and forth, all whilst I am trying my hardest to convince myself that everything is and will be ok. It is a constant battle, that right now, I finally seem to be winning.

Now, that’s the thing with mental health, you CAN’T see it. To the outsider looking in everything is fine, but inside that little head of yours that couldn’t be further from the truth. So here comes that horrible stigma that is attached, the word crazy that haunts us. Do you think we need others to tells us that we are acting crazy? We are already aware of this, and hearing it constantly from others will only fuel our worries. Our mind is turning on itself and we don’t need you to turn on us too, we don’t mean to push you away. It’s our worries and our fears running away from us.
So, for those of you who don’t suffer with anxiety, or any kind of mental health then this is what we ask from you.

Understand – understand that this is not what we want, we don’t want these horrible, worrying, sad thoughts. We hate it more than you do!
Don’t judge – if you see someone struggling, worrying or having a panic attack. Don’t judge, just be there, be patient and most of all be kind.
Listen – sometimes there are times we just need you to hold us, sit with us and not leave us. This is not us being needy. There will also be times we need to be alone and don’t want anyone around. This is not us pushing you away. We don’t expect you to bow to our every request but listen to what we want and act accordingly, the littlest things can really help.

For those of you suffering right now please know you are not alone. With help and good people around you, trust me, things can get a lot better. And, if someone you love is suffering remember this won’t last forever but right now they need you.